I’ve always been curious about human behavior. Why do people do what they do? The better question is why don’t people do what they really want to do? The questions are cliche, I know but they continue to challenge most people – at least those who would like to change their lives for the better. I started studying psychology before I got into psychology. I studied early Tony Robins products (a 30-day program on tapes, that has since evolved to a shorter version). Without giving you the full history of why I do what I do, I’ll share the short version.
I’ve always been inspired by stories of personal transformation. I thought that somewhere in those stories was a secret I could follow to become more than I was. As an average boy growing up in East LA I never wanted to believe that my potential was limited to circumstances beyond my control. I believed if I worked hard I could achieve whatever I set out to do. And I did. I was a High School All American in water polo, I was a United States Marine, I was the first member of my family to ever graduate from college (then go on to finish my Doctorate in Organizational Psychology). I was a successful consultant and eventually a successful coach. At each achievement, I felt, on some deep level it was not enough. I was still the same person trying to escape myself. I was another goal away from being happy, another goal away from being good enough. I rarely found what I was looking for in the goals I set out to achieve. Long story short, I began to lose interest in my goals and achievement and started to fall apart… from the norm. From the socially embedded story of who we are supposed to be. A good student, a good applicant, a good employee, a good supervisor, a good manager, a good partner, a good parent… I fell apart from the story of an ordinary life and started to explore a different way.
I believe I represent a trend among young/young at heart high-performers who leave traditional corporate roles for something more or just something different. What that is, is hard to explain. But goals that were once a measure of social standing, gave way to goals that represent a deeper connection to feeling authentic. The goal to be “successful” was measured in feeling, not having. We don’t seek to have success, rather the feeling of being successful. My work represents me and passion and a deep commitment to the people I serve.
My work is influenced by Simon Sinek, Brene Brown, Jeff Foster, Abraham Maslow, Carl Rogers, Tom Peters, David Foster Wallace, and a number of other artists, and professionals who, in my opinion, offered insight to the human condition that has inspired my personal and professional growth. I will not pretend to possess the intellectual capacity to truly understand any single works offered by any of my teachers, but I believe by some luck I’ve synthesized an overall process for understanding a powerful process for understanding trauma, transformation, and transcendence, and that this work has allowed me to support my clients down their path toward their deeply personal definitions of success.